Some of us have bad lucks to live or marry someone suffers from sick jealousy; then the life becomes a horrible hell. After that, we see most of the jealous are in beautiful mental hospitals.
You may get jealous in any of the following situations:
- When someone flirts with your girl
- When someone achieves something that you have always wanted to achieve
- when someone you hate succeeds
- when someone manages to get something, and you think that he doesn’t deserve it.
*** The main cause for feelings of jealousy are your doubts about your abilities or skills. If you were one hundred percent sure of yourself, you would have never suffered from any jealousy feelings
*** If you believe that you look ugly or that you are not that handsome then chances are, you’ll be experiencing feelings of jealousy whenever you meet someone who looks better than you.
*** One of the root causes behind jealousy you feel afraid. This fear can be a fear of ending up alone, a fear of being rejected or a fear of losing the love of your partner.
*** Feelings of insecurity are the result of the two previously mentioned causes. A poor self-image and lack of self-confidence can result you feel insecure.This can be a strong reason that can make you jealous.
*** HOW TO DEAL WITH JEALOUSY:
*** knowing about your points of strength and knowing for certain that you are worthy can be enough to eliminate any feelings of jealousy. After all feelings of insecurity which stem from lack of self-confidence cause these pangs of jealousy.
*** Fix your mental and physical self-image: Contrary to common beliefs, it is possible to fix your mental self-image and to change the idea you have about your looks. Fixing your mental self-image will have a great impact on your self-confidence and will certainly reduce those feelings of jealousy. Your physical self-image plays an important role too so make sure you fix both your mental and physical self-image.
***Deal with your feelings of insecurity: If you experience jealousy in relationships then building your self-confidence and fixing your self-image are bound to remove any feelings of insecurity you might be feeling.
***Conquer your fears: Whatever the kind of fear you’re experiencing, dealing with your fears will help you a lot in your journey for getting over jealousy; whether it’s a fear of abandonment or fear of rejection.
*** Do some external changes: Even tough Jealousy comes from within sometimes you need to fix the external world along with fixing your inner self.
***Assertiveness is the habit of communicating your feelings without being aggressive nor allowing your rights to be violated. Learning how to be assertive will certainly help you reduce jealousy because it will enable you to stand up for your rights whenever needed
*** Control your anger: One direct result of jealousy is anger. Anger won’t only make you feel bad and frustrated, but it will also destroy your relations with others. On your journey to deal with jealousy make sure you know how to control and manage to avoid unwanted consequences.
*** Don’t compare timelines: In many cases, people get jealous of others because they managed to get something that they failed to get. You have to understand that each person is a unique different case and that the fact that someone got something when he was 20 doesn’t mean that every person has to get it by the same age. You can still get that thing later
***Trying to put others down just because they are ahead of you is an indication of weakness. Instead try to put yourself up by making more achievements or improving your life. That’s the best way to deal with jealousy.
***Know that you are facing different obstacles: No matter how good you are you might be facing problems that this person you are jealous of didn’t face. For example, a person could have become extremely successful because some external conditions favoured them. In such a case you need to understand that each person faces a different set of problems and by hard work you will be able one day to reach your goals.