It is so important to care the grieving children because if there is an ignorance , they will have different mental disorders in short time .If some of families have a member has died , they focus on the duties and responsibilities of the funerals without caring of the grieving children much time. After that, they face serious problems because the children have serious mental disorders.
Let’s discuss this serious issue in simple information in order to make our children healthy and go on the life well.
WHAT ARE THE TYPICAL CHILDHOOD RESPONSES TO GRIEF?
Feeling nothing after someone has died can seem scary to a child., particularly if everyone else is so upset. A child may take a while, perhaps weeks or months to begin to feel upset, then their grief will come out. Gradually, the child may calm down. It can be hard for them to realise that death is permanent, that you have to live the rest of your life without that person.
It is normal to worry about the future and who will look after them. They may find themselves talking to the person who has died or thinking that they are seeing them – adults can also do this when they are grieving.
Some children may feel angry or cross without knowing why. Sometimes adults may respond by getting angry back with the child, which can make things worse. It is natural to feel like this when someone close has died. Feeling angry for no reason is normal. There may not be a reason, or it may be that the child feels it is unfair that someone has died and left them. They may blame the doctors and nurses who cared for the person, thinking they did not do enough.
HOW DO YOU SUPPORT A GRIEVING CHILD?
Many studies have shown that after the death or a departure of a parent that children tend to suffer from loss of self-esteem, as can adults who lose a spouse.
It is important to listen to children and teenagers who are grieving, so they can tell us what their needs are.
- They may need adults who they can turn to and trust.
- They should be able to express their feelings without judgement or criticism. They may already feel vulnerable, so disapproval or indifferent will not help.
- Tears should be allowed and encouraged. It is not helpful for adults to say things such as ‘’ come on, be brave, you are the man/woman of the house now. ‘’
- Accept that they may not cry easily.
- Offer them a secure setting and safe ways to let their anger and feelings be expressed.
- Helping them to A) Go for a walk B) Play sport C) Noisy play D) Shouting E) Punching cushions G) Physical exercise