Every teenager needs to grieve in their own time and in their own way. It is no good trying to speed up the recovery process as this could be harmful. However, there are ways of helping a bereaved adolescent.
Check things out to find out what the person needs and wants at this time. You can take a direct approach – Ask the teenager what they need. You can also take an indirect approach – Watch for their reaction to offers of support. Be careful of physical contact.
- 2- Invite the Grieving Teen to Talk
Grieving people often have difficulty asking for help. They are preoccupied with mourning and may be afraid to be seen as weak or a burden. They may not be aware that talking will help them.
Be clear about the type of help you are offering and Set your limits .
It is no good offering to be there 24 hours a day if they need you, if you know that you have to go to work or have your own family to look after, for example.
- 3- Simply Listen
Let them tell you about their experience of the death, where they were when it happened, what happened after and what they are experiencing now. Adults may avoid the subject or put on a front that can create an atmosphere of confusion or isolation. This can cause the teenager to think that others didn’t really love the deceased as they don’t seem to be grieving in the same way that they are. This can be frightening for them.
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- 4- Facilitate Communication
Adults may suggest creative ways to facilitate communication about the loss, memorializing the deceased, encouraging expression of grief, and achieving a sense of closure for the adolescents. Suggestions include creating a memory book, cards, or collages; displaying a memorial plaque; or planting a memorial tree or garden in the person’s name.
Research has shown that the bereaved are offended and hurt by some support attempts. Behaviours that are considered unhelpful include: saying, “I know how you feel,” encouraging a speedy recovery, giving advice, minimizing the loss/forcing cheerfulness, and intentionally avoiding the use of the deceased’s name. Failing to acknowledge that the death has occurred can also be offensive and hurtful.
- 5-Encourage Rituals
Writing a letter to the deceased can be a way for the teenager to say goodbye. It may be painful but can provide relief and a safe expression of feelings. They may also want to write a letter to someone they love who is still alive. They may have distanced themselves from those they love to avoid being hurt, so a letter can be a way to reconnect with their loved ones. Encourage them to build a collage as a way of healing. They may cut out words and photos from magazines or of the deceased person. They may put it in a visible place, so encouraging people to ask them questions about how they feel about the dead person.
- 6-Transform the Relationship with the Deceased
Encourage the adolescent to maintain an attachment to the deceased. Some of the ways in which adolescents can preserve the bond between the deceased and themselves include: visiting the cemetery; believing in a spiritual realm; praying or talking with the deceased; keeping possessions that the deceased valued; and/or placing items representing things the deceased valued (pictures, notes, sports equipment, favourite hat, class ring, etc.) in the casket. Telling the adolescent that the person has gone forever or will not be able to hear them or that their actions are useless is not a positive approach.
- 7-Provide them with Information
They may ask why the person has died. They may ask for religious reasons about why death has happened, eg Why does God let people die, and so on.
The counsellor can ask to see a picture of the person who has died. Let them tell you about the person and why they were special. Let them share some special memories with you. Let them tell you about any dreams they have had about the dead person. Dreams can be powerful, and they may need support. A teenager who understands the grief process, including anger and fear will have a better chance of coping with their feelings of loss and be able to cope with their losses more during their lives.
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